Dads of Sons – Let’s Climb Higher in 2012

On October 15, 2011 I did possibly the manliest thing I have done in a very long time. Together with 7 other dads, and 14 total sons, I ascended Mount Scott inside the Wichita Mountain Wildlife Refuge near Lawton. Mount Scott is an interesting “hike.” Apart from the paved road that serpentines the park’s tallest peak, there is no set path up the mountain. Getting from the parking lot to the summit required our group to work together and plan well in order to make it to the top without serious injury.

To say that this hike was one of the manliest things I have done in a while is not an exaggeration. The hike was full of elements of pure manhood. If we had only killed our own lunch and cooked it over an open flame, the hike would have had everything. Even still, the hike had:

  1. Danger. Though we were not taking our life into our own hands, we all were taking our emergency room co-pays into consideration as we hiked the mountain. Hopping from boulder to boulder was fun, with an element of risk. We loved it.
  2. Someone who needed us. Nothing gets guys moving more than realizing that someone is depending on us. The 14 sets of little eyes (all under the age of 10) followed our direction and example as we pointed the way and pulled the little ones up the mountain side. It was awesome.
  3. Teamwork. I would have matched our 8 dad sherpa crew against the “We are Family” Pittsburgh Pirates of the 1970’s as a picture of partnership. No one on that mountain had one son . . . we all had 14.
  4. Fun. We laughed a lot, cheered alot, and cracked on each other all the way up the mountain. It was perfect.

In the end, we all made it up the mountain together. When we got back in the car and drove back to Norman, Josh actually cried for about 15 miles of turnpike time . . . he simply did not want the trip to be over. To be honest, I didn’t want it to be over either. The rush of climbing that mountain has not soon left me.

So, all of this has got me thinking about life and fatherhood. I want to issue a challenge to dads of sons everywhere. Dads, we should not simply wait for Mount Scott moments to join together. We need to be a band of brothers. We have way more important hills to climb than a pile of rocks in southwest Oklahoma. We need each other to help each other guide our sons to the top of the mountain of manhood. We need to have a year round adventure for our kids where we guide them through:

  1. Danger. The world today is a scary place. Satan is very creative in the way he attacks us . . . like a lion going after his prey. The risks for our lives and our boys lives are real: pornography, laziness, disrespect, materialism, lack of a fervency in following God. The danger is real . . . the spiritual lives of our sons are at stake. Instead of turtling up over this, let’s join together in facing this challenge with the enthusiasm we had on Mount Scott. Confronting this danger and surviving helps give us adventure every day with our sons!
  2. People who need us. Our sons need us. They need our guidance to navigate the ascension from boyhood to manhood. Their 14 sets of eyes are looking to us for an example of how to live and instruction on how to respond in a difficult world.
  3. Teamwork. We need each other. Being a dad is a difficult and important task, and effectively climbing this mountain with our sons is way easier with 8 of us than with one. Helping our sons get from here to there demands that we not have only our own children, we have “14.”
  4. Fun. We need to celebrate the victories, laugh at the mistakes, and enjoy the ride together.

I am writing this note as an open call to Dads everywhere to challenge us to step up our game in 2012. Let’s link arms and raise a generation of world changers for Jesus Christ. It is my hope that this post prompts groups of men to have a conversation over the next month where they talk about how to be more intentional in raising their sons to manhood. We need to do this, and we need each other to do this. There are no solo hikes up mount manhood.

The more I live, the more I am convinced that the world has far too many boys who shave (as Mark Driscoll calls them) and far too few real men. Dads, God can use us to change that reality. Let’s lean in together and see a new generation of men emerge. Discipleship starts in the home, and God wants to use us to make a difference in the lives who sleep under our roof. Let’s do that together. OK?

Merry Christmas Everyone! Let Your Light Shine

Merry Christmas everyone!  Today’s post is my 29th over the past 4+ weeks leading up to Christmas day.  I hope these daily posts have helped you worship Christ more this Christmas. In today’s final post, I wanted to include a video that we showed to open our Christmas Eve service last night at Wildwood.  It is funny in parts, but has a powerful meaning as well.  Have a great day celebrating the birth of our Savior!

Hopes and Dreams at Christmas Time

I spent the past few days in Bartlesville celebrating the holidays with family.  We had a great time quoting lines from Elf, opening presents, eating way too much, and getting schooled in Scrabble by my 10 year old niece.  In other words, it was a perfect holiday.  Since I grew up in Bartlesville, any trip back home brings back all kinds of memories – good and bad.  In many ways, I have grown into a different person since I moved away from there 20 years ago.  Some of those changes have been positive, some have been negative.

One of the changes that I would consider negative, is my general optimism about life.  When I lived in Bartlesville I was much younger, and much more optimistic about my future.  Let me give you an example.  Back in 1984 when the Olympics were in Los Angeles, I remember dreaming that one day I would be a part of the U.S. Olympic basketball team.  I loved playing basketball, and thought I had a “realistic” shot at making the team one day.  I actually did the math and thought that I would only have two chances to make the team – 1992 and 1996.  I thought I would only have the chance for those two Olympics because I would be in the NBA in 1997, thus making me ineligible for an amateur competition (the Olympics at that time were only open to amateurs).  Best I can tell, I wanted to be an Olympian for three reasons:

  1. A love of America.  Putting on the stars and bars and taking on the world was an incredibly motivating idea.
  2. A love of Basketball.  I thought I had the skills to compete.
  3. A love of Mary Lou Retton.  Remember the 1984 games?  As an 11 year old, I thought if I could just meet her, I had a chance . . .

Anyway, by the time 1992 rolled around, I no longer lived in Bartlesville . . . and I no longer thought I could be an Olympian.  Though the inclusion of the professionals did not help me (thanks a lot Dream Team), the reason I did not make it to the Olympics in 1992 was that I was not good enough to make the team.  Time has an incredible ability to kill our dreams, doesn’t it?  The longer we live, the more we are in tune with our own abilities and liabilities.  The more basketball I played against better and better competition, the more I realized that I was not going to be the next Mark Price or even the next Tim Legler.  My talent ceiling was 6A sports in Oklahoma.  Getting a realistic picture of what I could accomplish caused me to alter my idealistic notion of being a Olympic champion.

What about you?  What did you used to think you were going to grow up to be?  How has time changed your hopes and dreams?

While it is fun and nostalgic to look back on our dreams of fame, it is tragic when we let the passing of time ebb away at the confidence we have in our spiritual lives.  For far too many of us, we trust God with less with each passing year.  This happens because over time we become more and more acquainted with our lack of ability to accomplish things we genuinely desire.  Year after year, an illness remains, a relationship deteriorates, a sin struggle lingers, depression clings on.  Because of the persistent nature of some of our struggles, and our lack of ability to change them, we begin to trust God with less.  As we become aware of our liabilities, we begin to limit our expectations.  When we limit our expectations, we shrink our dreams.  When we shrink our dreams, we have a tendency to shrink our God as well.

The flaw in all this is that we are attaching our hopes and dreams in the areas that matter most to us only to our own ability.  As believers in Jesus Christ, we have a God we can trust for things way larger than that!  Think about it: if you are a believer in Jesus, you are trusting God for forgiveness of all your sins.  Your ability to be forgiven has nothing to do with your ability to accomplish something yourself, but it has to do with God’s ability to do more to you and through you than you could ever do alone!  God forgives by sending His Son to die on the cross for us.  That is how we are forgiven.  However, as believers live out their spiritual lives, we can allow time to cause us to focus more on what we can do and less on what God can do.  When we do that, our vision for tomorrow deflates.

This year, this Christmas, I want to encourage you to inflate your vision again.  Trust God more this coming year for things bigger than what you can accomplish on your own.  I want to encourage you in this direction by looking at the first few words in Luke 2 tonight.  At the beginning of the story of Jesus birth, Luke says this, “In those days a decree went out from Caesar Augustus. . .”  If you have been a Christian for a long time (or if you have recently watched the “Charlie Brown Christmas” special), no doubt these words are very familiar to you.  In fact, the name Caesar Augustus is one of the most famous names of any Caesar in the history of the Roman Empire.  But who was Caesar Augustus and why do we know his name today?  Answering that question is a very interesting story.

In 63 BC, a young man named Gaius Octavius was born.  Octavius was in the Roman army.  At that time, a man named Julius Caesar was the dictator of Rome.  Julius noticed the great skill and leadership ability that Octavius had.  Octavius was Julius’s nephew.  Julius had no children of his own.  Unknown to Octavius, Julius had written into his will to adopt Octavius upon his death, and make him the heir to his fortune and political successor.  On the Ides of March, in 44 BC, Julius Caesar was assassinated by political adversaries in the Roman Senate.  Octavius was summoned to Rome to hear a reading of his late Uncle’s will.  In the will, Octavius found out his future would be changed forever.  He had been post-humously adopted by his uncle Julius and at the age of 19, Octavius had become the leader of Rome.  As a tribute, Octavius took on Julius’s name “Caesar,” making him Octavius Caesar.  In 42 BC, the Roman Senate deified Julius Caesar, making him the “Divine Julius” and Octavius, “The Son of the Divine” or as we might say, he became known as the “Son of God.”  Then, in a twist that changed the course of Rome, Octavius changed the Roman constitution making himself an Emperor and Rome an Empire.  At that time, they changed his name to Augustus . . . which means “Sacred one” . . . Thus Augustus Caesar became known as the Sacred One, the Son of God.  He was the leader of the world at the time of Jesus birth.

Caesar Augustus was such a powerful man that he was able to speak a word and make the entire Roman Empire move.  When you are an emperor and people think you are a god, you have lots of power.  That is why when Caesar developed a new tax code and said that people needed to go to their ancestral homes to register, people started walking – among them Mary and Joseph.

Now imagine that you were alive in the Roman Empire on the night that Jesus was born, and imagine that you were walking with a set of travelers to the town of Bethlehem to register for the census.  Imagine that someone were to say to you that alive in the world at that time was one known as the Son of God, the Sacred one, who would be known for 2,000 years and counting into the future.  Imagine that someone were to tell you on the way to Bethlehem that 2,000 years later all of human history would hinge around this Son of God and what He would accomplish with His life.  Imagine that someone were to tell you that 2,000 years later, people would look at pictures and symbols of this Sacred One and think of how the Son of God had changed their lives.  Imagine that.  I would imagine that if someone would have told you all that on that night, you would have thought they were talking about Caesar Augustus.  In reality, however, they were talking about a child that would be born later that night in a cave and placed in an animals feeding bin.

Despite the drastic differences between Jesus and Augustus on the first Christmas night (one in a manger, the other on a throne), the world has come to remember the one, only because of His association with the other.  Think about it, the man who was responsible for starting the Roman Empire . . . the man who was known as a god by the most advanced civilization in the world at that time, would be known to us only because he was the ruler at the time of the birth of Jesus Christ.  As Andy Stanley has correctly said, Augustus Caesar is merely a footnote in the history of God’s Story in Christ.  Men and women, we serve a God who can make a baby born in a manger infinitely more powerful than the leader of the “free world.”

This Christmas, as you ponder anew what the Almighty can do, I want you to stop limiting what God can do.  I want you to renew your belief that God can do big things.  As the Christmas story is read and you hear of Caesar Augustus, I want you to remember the power of God.  Caesar thought he was a god and tried to make himself famous, but in the end, he was a footnote in history.  Time has taught us of the limitations of human power.  However, time has also taught us of the enduring nature of God’s story.  When we are attached to Christ, He can do infinitely abundantly beyond all we ask or think.  I want you to trust God again for big things this year, because we serve a big God.

Now, I want to ask you this question.  Who are you trusting tonight?  For the problem of our sin.  For the problem of our uncertainty.  For the problem of our mortality.  For the things you truly long for.  Who are you trusting?  Yourself?  The best a person could do is what Augustus did . . . and he is rotting in a tomb.  Trust instead in the One who has gone from the manger to a throne that will never be unseated.  He can offer us forgiveness, and hope.  He is the One we orient our history around.  His story gives meaning to ours.  My dreams are bigger because I am a part of  His team.

Will You Stand and Sing?

Are you familiar with the concept of a “Flash Mob?”  If you ever watch youtube videos, then you probably are.  A flash mob is when a collection of people assemble in a public place to perform a prearranged song or dance seemingly spontaneously taking the “audience” by surprise.  One of my favorite flash mobs was one performed for Oprah Winfrey by the city of Chicago and the band the Black Eyed Peas.  You can see that video here:

As we head into Christmas this year, however, I wanted to share an additional thought about a Christmas themed flash mob I saw on the Internet recently.  In the flash mob filmed below a food court at a shopping mall was invaded at Christmas time by a choir singing the “Hallelujah Chorus” from Handel’s “Messiah.”  The unsuspecting crowd was eating their Sbarro one minute, and the next were hearing a large choir surrounding them declaring that the “Kingdom of this world has become the Kingdom of our Lord and of His Christ!  And He shall reign forever and ever!”  What a scene!

As I have posted to this blog earlier this season, the “Hallelujah Chorus” is one of my favorite songs.  I absolutely LOVE the lyric of this song.  It is such a strong statement as to the majesty of our God.  I actually teared up doing the dishes last night singing this song (no joke).  In a world that is cruising along toward destruction while eating its slice of Sbarro, it is such a powerful reminder that our God reigns!  As we live out our lives in this world, believers are called to be a flash mob declaring this truth in the public square. The question is, will you and I join the chorus?

Houston, this is our problem

There is a great scene in the 1995 movie “Apollo 13” where Tom Hanks (playing the part of Astronaut Jim Lovell) sits in his back yard staring at the moon.  Lovell was soon to pilot the famed Apollo 13 spaceship all the way to a lunar landing.  As he sat in his suburban backyard on terra firm, however, Lovell was thousands of miles away from his destination.  While staring at the moon, Lovell closed one eye and extended his hand in front of him.  The captain then extended his thumb up into the air.  The camera switched to Lovell’s perspective and showed us the captain’s ability to make the moon disappear behind his thumb.

Now, two possible explanations exist regarding Lovell’s disappearing moon technique:

  1. The disappearance of the moon was an optical allusion created by the close proximity of the finger to the eyeball.  In other words, it was a matter of perspective.
  2. Tom Hanks has an extremely large thumb!  In other words, his thumb is bigger than the moon.

Of course, option one is the correct answer.  It also serves as a helpful reminder to you and me.

In our lives, the problems we face everyday have a very close proximity to our eyes.  Medical issues we deal with, relationships that crumble, dreams that are dashed, are so close to where we live that they feel absolutely enormous.  In fact, they feel so big, they can even cause us (as we close one eye of perspective under the strain) to not be able to see God in the midst of our difficulty.  As we ponder this phenomena, two possibilities exist:

  1. We have some really large problems . . . larger than the God who created the universe.
  2. We are allowing our current circumstances to create an optical allusion blinding us to the reality of the presence of our God.

This Christmas season, many of you are no doubt dealing with difficulty.  In fact, I would hazard a guess that virtually all of us are facing a tough trial of some kind.  Because of that, we might have a tendency to miss God this holiday season.  Under the stress and strain of life, we squint our eyes and see only that which is attached to our own hands.  However, do not be fooled.  God is there!  The infant born in Bethlehem is not small in stature . . . He is larger than life, and He is our Immanuel – God with us.  Because of this, we can sing loudly the chorus to the hymn “God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen” –

O Tidings of Comfort and Joy!  Comfort and Joy!  O Tidings of Comfort and Joy!

We are comforted because God does not disappear from us . . . He has come to us in Christ.  We have great joy because when we open both eyes of biblical perspective, we can see that the Lord has been here all along.  Remember, Jesus last words to His disciples were, “Lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”  This promise opens our eyes to dispel the allusion that we are alone.  He is here, and He is bigger than all of the problems and issues we face.  We can trust Him with all our problems, big and small.

What is the Good News?

The angels appeared over the fields outside Bethlehem on the night of Jesus birth and said that they had “good news of great joy to share with all the people.”  What was that good news?  The good news was not just that Jesus had been born, but that Jesus would become the ultimate Good News for all who believe in Him.  The rapper/poet Propaganda has put together a great video explaining the Gospel.  Thinking about the Good News of Jesus, saw this video posted to Facebook by my friend Tim Ferguson.  I wanted to share it with you as well.  Hope you enjoy it as I have.  Praise God for the Good News we have in Christ — The Gospel.

 

 

Separating Myth from Manger

A lot of the elements that we attach to the Christmas story are actually NOT in the Bible.  This fun/silly video helps to clarify the facts of the Christmas story as recorded in Matthew and Luke.  May this video encourage you to read the Christmas story fresh again this holiday season.

 

Marvel at this . . . He is with us!

Lois Lane and Mary Jane Watson have a pretty good life.  At first glance, this statement might not make sense.  These two leading ladies seem to always find themselves in a world of trouble.  Every time you turn around, one of them is falling off the side of a building or the victim of an evil plot hatched by Lex Luthor or the Green Goblin.  What makes Lois and Mary Jane’s lives so good, though, has nothing to do with how frequently they find themselves IN trouble, it has to do with who always shows up to get them OUT of trouble.  When Lois finds herself in peril, Superman is always there to save the day.  When Mary Jane is in despair, Spiderman spins her a web of protection.  These two superheroes lend their presence and power to provide protection for those they love.

Of course, the lives of the superheroes we Marvel, are not real.  They make a great story, but they do not translate into reality.  In real life, however, the followers of Jesus Christ find themselves living a pretty good life.  At first glance, this statement might not make total sense.  The followers of Christ have found themselves persecuted and/or marginalized for 2000 years.  11 of the 12 apostles were martyred for their faith.  Even today around the world Christians are imprisoned, beaten, and killed because of their relationship with Christ.  What makes the lives of Christians so good, though, has nothing to do with the circumstances they find themselves IN, it has to do with who always shows up to be with them THROUGH the trouble.  Indeed, one of Jesus last promises to His people before He ascended into heaven was, “Lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”  Jesus has promised to be with His people no matter what.

Though Jesus promise to His disciples to be with them always came in the early stages of the first century of the common age, the Old Testament provided allusions to God’s presence with His people in times of need.  In the book of Daniel, the nation of Israel was stuck in exile in Babylon when the Babylonian King Nebuchadnezzar, passed a law demanding that all people worship an image of himself.  Of course, worshipping anyone but God was a violation of the first commandment, so a few of the faithful followers of God refused to follow Nebuchadnezzar’s decree.  Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego did not bow down to the idol, so Nebuchadnezzar threw them into a fiery furnace as punishment for their disobedience.  Of course, these three men should have been instantly consumed by the flames, but after some time, Nebuchadnezzar looked inside the furnace to see not 3 men, but 4 men dancing inside!!  In Daniel 3:25 one of the king’s men described the scene this way, “I see four men unbound, walking in the midst of the fire, and they are not hurt; and the appearance of the fourth is like a son of the gods.”  Many biblical scholars understand this mysterious fourth person to be a pre-incarnate appearance of Jesus Christ.  Jesus was with His people in their time of need, even in the Old Testament, hundreds of years before His birth in Bethlehem!  His love for His people could not keep Him from them.

As people who live today 2000 years after the birth of Christ, we should take great comfort from this story.  Just as Jesus was not separated from the faithful followers of Yahweh God BEFORE His birth, how much more so will He not be separated from His followers AFTER His birth, death, and resurrection.  We can have confidence that He will be with us always, even to the end of the age.  Regardless of what you are going through right now, we can know the Savior is with us, if we have trusted in Him.  Though not everyone will be spared the “flames” of difficulty in this life, all followers of Christ can have the comforting presence of God with them at all times.

O Come All Ye Faithful

In the 1700’s, England had a set of 13 colonies in a “New Land” but they did not have room for the Catholic Church in their country.  This led to many English people who were practicing Catholics, fleeing the country to pursue their religious liberty elsewhere.  As time wore on, however, many within England became sympathetic to the cause of the Catholic Church, and word was beginning to spread throughout Europe calling all English Catholics home.  Part of the marketing campaign to attract English Catholics to return to their home country included the writing of several masses that encouraged their return.  Included in one of these masses was a hymn (written in Latin) by John Francis Wade, “O Come All Ye Faithful.”  In the margins of the mass script, beside the song lyrics, in Wade’s own handwriting, was a plea for the faithful Catholics of English descent to return to their mother land.  Therefore, the song was originally written to inspire English Catholics gathering together around Christ in England by drawing from imagery of the gathering of the faithful around the manger in Bethlehem.

After many Catholics returned to England (and brought this mass with them), the popularity of this hymn began to grow outside the circles of the Catholic Church.  In 1841 the Duke of Leeds had the song translated into English and included in a choral arrangement he was preparing for the Church of England. That translation is the song we still sing today.

Though we are not English Catholics of the 18th century, this song still holds great truth for us.  In fact, understanding the historical context of the song should encourage believers today.  Increasingly, I have heard people crying out in distress over the wandering of our country away from Biblical values.  As we sing this song this season may we all be reminded that the faithful can come to Christ any place, any time, regardless of the political setting.  O come let us adore Him, Christ the Lord!

“O come all ye faithful, joyful and triumphant

O come ye, O come ye to Bethlehem

Come and behold Him, born the King of angels!
O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him, Christ the Lord!

God of God, Light of Light;

Lo, He abhors not the Virgin’s womb;

Very God, begotten, not created

O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him, Christ the Lord!

Sing choirs of angels, sing in exaltation

O sing, all ye citizens of heaven above

Glory to God, all glory in the highest!

O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him, Christ the Lord!

See how the shepherds, summoned to His cradle,

Leaving their flocks, draw nigh to gaze;

We too will thither bend our joyful footsteps;

O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him, Christ the Lord!

Lo! star led chieftains, Magi, Christ adoring,

Offer Him incense, gold, and myrrh;

We to the Christ Child bring our hearts’ oblations.

O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him, Christ the Lord!

Child, for us sinners poor and in the manger,

We would embrace Thee, with love and awe;

Who would not love Thee, loving us so dearly?

O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him, Christ the Lord!

Yea, Lord, we greet Thee; born this happy morning

Jesus to Thee be all glory given

Word of the Father, now in flesh appearing!

O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him!  O Come Let us Adore Him, Christ the Lord!”